This etiquette creates a situation where women enjoy a degree of sexual confidence, freedom and power that is rarely found in the outside world.
This more fluid version of monogamy can be seen as a sexual power shift in favor of women within the traditional monogamous relationship structure.
Another pillar of the swinging lifestyle is that polite acceptance and refusal are paramount to maintaining a healthy atmosphere in any swingers club or relationship.
Swingers clubs in general range from nightclubs catering exclusively to swinging couples (and single women looking to join the couples), to events held in hotels and rented locations.
The latter are referred to as off-premises, and have the same function as a speed-dating event in that couples attend to meet other likeminded swinger couples in the lifestyle, there is however no swinging on site, and whatever happens after the event is at the discretion of the couples in question.
This draws parallels from the gay cursing scene, where no always means no, and that a polite decline should never be taken personally.
The clandestine nature of swinging and the swinger's lifestyle community seems to have created an etiquette that all but expunges the possibility for violence or acrimonious conflict.