“I’ve done as much as I’m going to do and doing any more is unfair,” they cry.And then, when those dates don’t magically appear, they complain that women are being too demanding and should “give us sex, dammit,” which works about as well as you might expect.It also ignores that one major reason why people of similar educational or socioeconomic backgrounds are more likely to get together is that, like actors marrying other actors, . Again: it’s easy to say “fuck ’em if they can’t take a joke”…If we’re presented with a choice between someone who makes us feel good about ourselves and someone who wants to insist, say, that we have an obligation to change somebody’s mind by fucking them, then we’re far more likely to choose the former. Again: if you don’t have strong beliefs, it’s easy to say “both” or “neither” and assume your kid will sort it out in time. until you’re the one dealing with the constant disapproval of literally everyone important in your life.Last Tuesday, The Federalist – a conservative news organization that seems to devote at least a third of its coverage to lamenting that women won’t sleep with them – decided to publish the hottest of hot takes: that women who refuse to give it up to conservatives are why Trump won. Women are, in fact, refusing to date or sleep with Trump voters.As it turns out, #MAGA is the ultimate anaphrodisiac; red hats are becoming the new “tiger pic” of Tinder.Laber is, indeed, correct that he and his cohorts that women are performing some sort of Lysistrata-esque pork-out against white nationalists and their quislings…
And while it’s tempting to define this as “we like all the same things,” compatibility has far more to do with shared expectations and values than it does with hobbies. On the surface, differing religious views seem like a relatively minor obstacle to overcome: you believe in what you believe, your partner believes in what they believe and as long as you two don’t come to blows over it, it’s all good. Considering that most couples will be having sex, and pregnancy is one of the risks accompanied with sexual activity, it makes sense that one would want to know in advance whether the two of you are on the same page about reproductive rights. One of the keys to making a relationship work is to know in advance what your pregnancy plan is.
This is exactly the type of schism that an arrogant demagogue like Trump exploits.
If a progressive doesn’t want to date a conservative and vice versa, that’s perfectly fine. But as a political protest, this form of virtue-signaling is counterproductive in the long run.
Not only is this attitude not terribly subtle, it’s dating.
If you’re unwilling to do what it takes to be appealing to women, that’s your call. You’re welcome to demand that women lower their standards to include you, for all the good it will do.